Pastor Manley Miller

There is no magic fairy who is going to show up and tell you what needs to be done in your marriage.

You’ve got to set the agenda. You and your spouse are the CEO’s of your marriage, therefore its up to you to determine the NEXT STEPS that you need to take.

“The job of the CEO isn’t to check things off the agenda. Her job is to set the agenda, to figure out what’s next. Now that more and more of us are supposed to be CEO of our own lives and careers, it might be time to rethink who’s setting your agenda.” - Seth Godin on April 16th 2011

Schedule a meeting with your spouse on a Sunday evening. If you have kids - then plan on meeting after they go to sleep. Here are the questions you need to answer:

1. What do you want to see happen in your marriage?
2. How are you going to measure success?
3. What is it gonna take to make your marriage figgity fiya? What are you missing?
4. What are 3 steps you can implement this week - starting on Monday - to head in the right direction?

All changes in life happen one step at a time. The problem for most people is that they can’t see a positive next step to take because the problems they face seem so big. You lose 85 pounds one at a time. You don’t get in a mess overnight and there is no magic lottery ticket to get you out overnight.

Little small changes become exponentially powerful in a relationship when built day after day after day. Determine the next step to take. Now take it.

“He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure.” - Psalm 40:2